High school is all about trying to fit in. Even the people who try to be different are all the same type of different. College is more of a time to find and individualize yourself. It is less about fitting in and more about finding the people who you get along with. College changes you. So how are you supposed to maintain a relationship you began in high school when college makes you a different person? It’s definitely easier when you both are at the same school changing together, but when long distance comes into the picture the situation gets a little messy. I am not saying it’s impossible I am just saying it’s a tough position to be in. You are obviously still in love with this person but the relationship can get a little dry. It becomes the same old routine you have been doing for the past four years. College is not the time to act like a married person! So you have a couple options:
1. Spice it up!
Add some excitement to your relationship. Make a list of things you both want to do with each other. Things you have never done before. You’re at an age where the possibilities are endless. You have holiday breaks to go on adventures if you’re long distance or weekends to do something a little less extravagant if you ended up at the same school.
2. Take a break!
This idea can seem a little scary to people. A break in some circumstances means the relationship is over. It doesn’t have to though! Like I said before, college is a time to find yourself and sometimes holding onto someone from the past prevents you from doing that. Especially if they aren’t trying to grow. If you can spend some time apart to grow and then after some time know that this is the person you really want to be with then at least you never have to wonder what you missed out on. If you don’t try it now you will always wonder what if.
3. Talk it out!
This may seem silly but some people are too scared to talk about it. You never know if your significant other is feeling the same way. Lack of communication is the worst thing for a relationship so see where your significant other is because I am sure they are having similar thoughts they just don’t know how to bring it up without hurting your feelings.
4. Let it go!
If you have tried all of this and exhausted all of your options you are almost left with no choice but to let it go. It’s tough to end a relationship when nothing is technically wrong but you have to remember that nothing is right either. Most likely you have both changed from the person you were when you first began your relationship. It’s better to let it go and try to maintain a friendship eventually than to drag it on and end up resenting each other.
It’s a tough situation but you have to do what’s best for yourself. I’m not saying it’s impossible but it will definitely take some work!