The hardest thing is having to find out the person you have feelings for doesn’t share those same feelings. It’s nothing anybody ever wants to hear but nine times out of ten that’s exactly what a person needs to hear.
If you don’t have feelings for a person, the best thing to do is to tell them. It doesn’t help anyone to drag it on. You may want to spare their feelings but you’re doing more harm by giving them hope.
I don’t remember where I read this but it’s stuck with me. Hope is more dangerous than fear. If you give a person hope that there is some possibility of a future, their imagination runs like wildfire. They can’t help it. The worst thing that has ever happened to me in a relationship was being told not now but maybe later. It was such a broad and vague thing to say but I held onto it because I wanted it to be true.
At the end of the day, and this goes for both genders, if a person likes you or wants you they will make a strong effort to have you. Even if they are nervous around you, you will be able to tell if they like you unless you are acting like you have zero interest in them. And if you can’t tell, find out! Life’s too short to beat around the bushes. The chase is fun but that can only last for so long.
The worst thing a person can tell you is no. You may be down for a little bit but you will have saved yourself a lot of time and then it’s on to the next one.